How the Consultation Works

I set aside 50 minutes for this first meeting and treat it like a first session.

Over the years, I’ve found that a standard 20–30 minute consultation is just too short, and most people wish they could take more time. It takes a lot to have an initial session, and people sometimes come into that consultation pretty amped.

So, I developed a hybrid model that solves this: we have a full session, but I don’t charge for the first half. If you don’t book another session, you don’t owe anything. If you do choose to continue, I invoice $80 for our first session. This gives you a real sense of the work without financial pressure.

How to Join the Session

When you book your consultation, you will receive an invitation with a link to your email. Sessions happen on Google Meet.

What the First Meeting Is For

The consultation is a chance for us to talk and see whether working together feels right. You won’t be walked through a rigid checklist. It’s a free-flowing conversation that starts right where you are.

Most men come in wanting relief from an emotion or a behavior, or because something important has been avoided for a long time—often both at once. That’s more than enough to start with. You don’t need a clean narrative or a clear explanation; we sort that out together as we talk. It’s also common to feel nervous, skeptical, relieved, or unsure of what you’re supposed to say. None of that interferes with having a solid first meeting.

A Note on Privacy and Space

Talking is easier when you’re somewhere you won’t be overheard. A bedroom, a parked car, or an office with the door closed all work. I also have one firm rule: you must be stationary for the entire session. No walking around, no driving, and no multitasking. Movement splits attention, disrupts the work, and makes it harder for me to track you. A still, private space gives us the best chance of having a meaningful conversation.

What I’ll Be Doing in the Consultation

My job is to listen closely, ask questions that help clarify things, and give you a sense of how I work. You’ll get a feel for my pacing, the kinds of questions I ask, and whether I’m someone you can talk more deeply with. You’re evaluating me more than I am assessing you.

LLM and Note-Taking

An LLM (a type of large-language-model artificial intelligence) is present in the background to help create clinical notes. You don’t interact with it, and it doesn’t evaluate you. It simply keeps the record accurate so I can stay focused on you during the conversation.

I have a handout explaining how I use LLMs in session, which you can read here.

What Happens After the Consultation

At the end, we check in about whether working together makes sense. If you want to continue, we schedule a second session and I invoice $80 for our first session. If you don’t, the meeting remains free and nothing else is required. The whole point is to give you a clear sense of the work without any pressure to commit.